“I’m not good at sprinting,” is a sentence my son says to me every time I beat him in a sprint.
Trust me, that fact that you can’t beat me in a sprint does not mean you aren’t good at sprinting. Booyah!
One thing I know about people is that we like being right. My son doesn’t think he is good at sprinting. Therefore, in order for him to view himself as being right, he must continue to not be good at sprinting.
Thus, believing he is not good at sprinting is a sure way to remain not good at sprinting.
A better thing to say is “I need to get better at sprinting.” Not only is this more accurate, it also leaves room for you to get better at sprinting while maintaining you are right. The better he gets at sprinting, the more he was right that he needed to get better at it!
I’ve observed this tendency within Christians and their doctrine. They cling to a doctrine and defend it. The more they defend it, the more their own ego/pride is tied in with the doctrine.
Therefore, they cannot move past that doctrine and maintain credibility, respect, or rightness. Even if they know they are wrong, even if they see the 12 verses that clearly refute their doctrine, their reputation is so sealed into that doctrine it is impossible to change.
People would rather be consistent than right.
A similar thing happens when we think our rightness is proved by being against someone we think is wrong. Since we don’t like Pastor Greg anymore, we must move against all that he taught. Therefore, finding doctrinal integrity is no longer our priority; being different from evil Pastor Greg is.
Whether Pastor Greg is right or wrong, should matter very little in your estimation of your own rightness.
Two things to consider:
Are we still learning, or does our pride keep us from admitting we are wrong? People who know everything, learn nothing.
Are we still learning, or are we content to be different from those we think are wrong? Just because you disagree with someone you think is wrong, doesn’t mean you are right!
Humility is the key to learning. Humility means admitting you are wrong when you are wrong. Humility is willing to learn from people we don’t like. Humility starts with the fear of God, and the fear of God is the beginning of wisdom.